If there’s anyone in the world qualified to talk about the path to massive success, it’s Oprah Winfrey.
A self-made billionaire, Oprah is not only one of the wealthiest women in the world, but one obviously committed to contributing to humanity.
Her talk show educated millions on important topics like infidelity, sexual abuse (she is a survivor herself), suicide, addiction, and more. Her current media network, OWN, is another trusted source of inspiration, education, and motivation for countless people around the world.
In other words, it’s worth listening to her if you want a career that is both financially impressive as well as spiritually aligned.
The fact is, more young people than ever struggle with finding their direction. Therapists, mentors, and researchers know that many Millennials experience either some or overpowering anxiety over what to do with their lives–where to go, what to focus on, how to live up to their potential.
Oprah has some brilliant advice for young people dealing with this kind of internal battle:
“The way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself, ‘What is the next right move?’ Not think about, ‘Ooh I got all of this to figure out.’ What is the next right move? And then from that space, make the next right move and the next right move … then you won’t be overwhelmed by it, because you know your life is bigger than that one moment.”
I spent most of my twenties obsessing over what I should do with my life.
It was a constant question, a nagging refrain, an unending inquiry that buzzed around my brain like a malignant mosquito.
I knew I was privileged to even be able to ask the question. I was lucky to live in a free country, with physical safety and access to clean water.
I felt the burden of choosing the right thing not in spite of that privilege, but because of it. I felt like I needed to know the correct answer to the question so I could be happy, yes, but also so that I could live up to my own potential–so that I could be worthy of my privilege.
The problem was that the crushing pressure and anxiety that came from trying to figure out what to do with my life wasn’t productive. It dragged me down, not up. It wasn’t inspiring; it was excruciating.
According to Oprah, this is in part because I was asking the wrong question. I shouldn’t have been making the grandiose demand, “What should I do with my life?”
I should simply have been asking, “What’s the next move?”
The next move.
Not all the moves.
Part of emotional intelligence is knowing how to get out of your own way (which often entails getting out of your own head). Yes, there’s a time and place for reflection, but there’s also a time and place to stop reflecting and just take an action (the next move).
If you’re struggling to find your way, listen to Oprah. Don’t try to figure it all out. Just get still, allow your next right move to speak to you, and do it. Do it regardless of what your parents think, how it’ll look on your resume, how much it’ll cost you, or whether it fits into the master plan you thought your life would look like.
Your life is bigger than one moment.
So take it one moment at a time.
By Melanie Curtin