6 Ways To Defeat Negative Thoughts and Low Self Esteem

We all have those days where you just don’t want to get out of bed and face the day. The weight of all that you have to deal with on a constant basis is getting to you. But someway, somehow you manage to drag yourself out that bed and put yourself together. But what if you can’t? What if you aren’t feeling like this only sometimes, but ALL the time? Here are some tips that can help.

Get organized

Sometimes when we have a lot on our plate, it can be easy to get overwhelmed and fall into a funk. And when your to-do list is out the door, and your bills are piling up, the self depreciation soon follows. It’s hard to feel good about yourself when you feel like you can’t accomplish anything. But taking a moment to step back and set some daily goals will help you fall back into a routine. Soon enough that extensive to do list will become shorter and shorter. And you will start to feel better about yourself.


Depression can really throw off your internal sleep schedule. You will find yourself sleeping too much or too little. So it’s important that when you are experiencing a particular bad case of the blues, to establish a sleep routine. Make sure that you are in bed at a certain time, and set your alarm to a reasonable hour in the morning. Sleep deprivation and oversleeping can severely affect your mood and make your depression worse. Managing this aspect of your life will drastically improve the recovery process.


There are times when I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about my problems, but I know that I can always speak to God. His line is open 24-7, free of judgement or criticism, and full of unconditional love. When the pain is so overwhelming that I can’t even muster the energy to get up, I just lay there with my eyes closed and call on His name. Almost immediately my spirit is filled with a sense of calm. You may or may not believe in a higher power, but sometimes it helps knowing that there is someone greater on your side.


Meditation is not just for yoga class or hippies, it’s a proven lifestyle practice that helps to ease anxiety and reduce stress. When I was first introduced to meditation I thought it was all deep breathing and sitting (uncomfortably) in silence. But it is much more than that. Meditation is about learning to filter and control the thoughts that we have in our mind. Which is especially helpful if lately your mind has been filled with negative ones. Take some time each morning to be still, and to silence your mind. Focus on one good thought : “I am strong” “I am blessed” “I am worthy of a great job, great life, a great man etc”… And hold that single thought in your head. Concentrate on that every single morning. And watch how your perception of your reality begins to change once you make a conscious effort to think positively.


Thirty minutes of activity is known to release “feel good” chemicals in your brain called endorphins. Now I’m not saying that every morning you need to wake up at the crack of dawn and go sprinting eight miles, but even just a simple walk around your neighborhood will help you feel much better. Personally, I find that every time I am going through it, a walk helps me to clear my thoughts and calms me down significantly. I turn off my phone, and I don’t let anything distract me. The longer I walk, the more I am able to find solutions and resolutions to whatever is bothering me. Plus it’s good for you! Which brings me to my last point….

Eat Healthy

This should be the most obvious of them all. Eating junk will make you feel like junk. But eating well will help to dramatically increase your energy, mood and overall well being. Foods rich in omega-3 fatty acids like salmon and tuna can help boost brain power. Also, food containing folic acid are known to help ease the chemical causes of depression.But no matter what you eat, make sure that it is in moderation. Stay away from too many fats and sugars and artificial ingredients. Natural, organic foods are the way to go.